Resistance to Assisted Living

Biggest Challenge: Mother does not want to go in assisted living; she is 90

--Vincent 

Response from DM: 

Dear Vincent, 

Thank you for your submission. We would all like to live in our own homes until the end of our days. This is a very natural desire. But when the time comes to deal with the reality that staying at home is no longer safe or financially practical, or that a higher level of care is needed, we look for other options. We, as family members, may be more aware of the changes that are occurring. Each step in making a transition has to be thoroughly thought out, examined and financially explored for its viability and practicality. 

Often the elder, in this case your mother, may never have even seen the assisted living facility. First look at the brochures of the assisted living facility, than take a tour and meet some of the staff. In some cases, by pre-arrangement, you and your mother may have lunch there and see any available rooms. These facilities do have a lot to offer in the way of safety and socialization. 

Usually, the best solution is to keep seniors fully informed, and involve them in the decision making process. Your mother may not comprehend how all of this is impacting your health, job, and family or even her personal finances. If your mother is competent and has full mental capacity, when she has all the facts at her disposal, the decision is hers to make. Transition is never easy for any of us. 

Sincerely, 

Dr. Marion

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