To Forgive

Biggest Challenge: To Forgive

--Edgar 

Response from DM:

Dear Edgar,

According to Webster’s New College Dictionary, the Definition of Forgive is:

1. To give up resentment against or the desire to punish; stop being angry with; pardon.  

2. To give up all claim to punish or exact penalty for (an offense); overlook  

3. To cancel or remit (a debt); to show forgiveness; be inclined to forgive  

- SYN Absolve. 

The act of forgiving is both hard and easy. The hard part is understanding that the past can only hurt you if you continue to cling to it. The easy part is that forgiveness only takes a moment once the concept is fully understood and accepted. We have to make a decision to let go of all of the “would have, could have, should haves” in our life. We need to ask ourselves: Are we forgiving our own actions, or are we forgiving what another has inflicted on us, either intentionally or unintentionally? We cannot change other people; we only have the power to change ourselves. We make choices from the information, skills and talents we have at the time of our actions. When we live in the present, what could have been, or what should have been, ceases to have any importance.

We give our personal power away when we ruminate and pursue the real or perceived hurt in our lives. If we concentrate on the miracle of life itself, and the preciousness of each moment we are given, we come to realize that life itself is a gift. Once we make the choice to simply forgive others, or ourselves, a weight is lifted from our consciousness and from our very being.

When we freely let go of the negatives in our past, we no longer feel drained by them. We cannot change the past, but we can simply accept it for what it was and make a choice to move on to the present. I have worked with many people who have survived horrendous circumstances in their lives and when they have learned the art of forgiveness, they felt renewed, refreshed, and revived, with a sense of lightness.

I only wish for you to embrace the concept of forgiveness and experience the freedom that forgiveness brings.

Most sincerely,

Dr. Marion

 

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