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My father is only 66, but I am scared about what the future holds. First, he lives by himself and he's admitted getting lost in his own house for 30 plus minutes.
Subsequently, His doctor conducted a basic cognitive test, while I was there with him; he couldn't recall basic facts like who was the president. He's drank for years and I discussed this with his doctor and I really didn't get any answers. Further, DMV suspended his license about 6 years ago and so I'm scared about what would happen if he got in an accident and hurt or killed someone. Moreover, he has a considerable estate which would be attacked in a lawsuit, if an accident occurred. I've spoken to him about this without much conclusion.
I've considered getting power of attorney and getting him declared incompetent, but I really rather not cross that bridge yet. What are my options? Thank you.
Loreal in California, 39
I'm grateful that you are so involved with your parent. Someone who is displaying the signs of memory loss needs guidance and lots of care. You may want to get in touch with an elder care attorney when dealing with establishing incompetency or memory loss or early signs of dementia. This is a serious step and you will need the guidance of someone who knows the laws regarding these issues so that you and your father are fully protected.
Anyone who has serious memory loss should not be behind the wheel of a car. He could do damage to himself as well as others. You will be protecting your father as well as the general public. But when you take a car away you will need to arrange adequate alternative transportation so that he doesn't become isolated. For his well being, he still needs to enjoy a social life and be able to attend to medical visits and other important events.
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