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Trouble with My Uncle
Dear Doctor Marion,
My uncle is 77. He is simple minded and has been all his life due to a head injury when he was a baby. He stayed home to care for his parents all his life, has never had a job or a girlfriend. His mom and dad, my grandparents passed away. He had to settle their estate and he did with the help of my father and a good lawyer. My uncle comes to visit me once a month now. There is a woman who has discovered that my uncle has money and two houses. He has let her get into one of the houses where she is squatting and not paying any rent. I believe she has bad intentions. I have warned my uncle but he does not listen. My sisters are no help either as they are fooled into thinking that this woman is nice. My uncle is not in shape to be a landlord and the house is in a bit of disrepair. Just before I found out that the woman had moved into his house (not the one that he lives in) I had a real estate agent make an offer to buy the house from my uncle as a fixer upper so he could be free of the responsibilities( as he had told me at different times that he wanted to sell) and he acted like he didn’t understand what I was saying he changed the subject. What do I do in a situation like this? I am at my wits end.
Deborah in Ontario, Canada 51
I am so sorry you are having so many issues with your uncle. It sounds
like you really care about him. I cannot give legal advice, but from my
experience, you need to think about the following:
* If your uncle is not capable of caring for him self or his property
* If your uncle is, by your evaluation, being taken advantage of
* If your uncle is not fully able to remember conversations he has had with you
You might consider having an elder care lawyer involved to discuss the various issues you mentioned so that you know how to best legally protect your uncle so he isn’t taken advantage of.
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