Dr. Marion Somers
My Grandma was a practical, craggy, curmudgeon, but full of old fashioned wisdom. Her various thoughts, expressions and homilies have resonated within me. I will share with you.
*If you want good people in your life, start being exactly the person you hope to meet.
*Be emotionally ready and willing to listen and not always be right.
*If you want to meet a potential mate, go where the man or woman might be, but stay within your comfort zone.
*Maintaining a long distance relationship can be rewarding and satisfying. (her husband had been in the arm services during the war.) They don’t need to hear all your troubles and tribulations. Do ask him or her how their day was. The object is to let them know you are thinking about them.
*Be aware of your loves daily schedule so that you don’t interrupt their routine and try to determine an ideal time for talking or getting together.
*Try as best you can to have a good relationship with his or her family, friends and business associates.
*Playful light flirting keeps the juices active and the sparks coming and reaffirms the attraction you two have.
*Find activities you can both share.
*Small issues or misunderstandings become big if they are ignored. Two different people have different values, goals, backgrounds and responsibilities. Everyone’s needs, need to be taken into account.
*Pet names helps you maintain your unique identity and just seeing their name appear on your phone or email can set the stage for a pleasant conversation.
*Making time to have eye contact or a walk together holding hands can have meaningful significance by reinforcing the visual, kinesthetic or auditory of each other.
*Hug whenever possible, you never know when that opportunity will disappear from your life.
*Always say hello, good morning, good night or some other token of acknowledgement be it a lover or a co-worker everyone deserves to be acknowledged.
*Respect the opinions of others even if they are vastly different from your own.
As my Grandmother would say, “If you are looking for a friend, companionship or a life partner, make the effort to reach out. You would not expect your knight in shining armor to come to your residence, ring the elevator bell so that he or she could find you. You must go out with the expectancy of meeting new people, friends, and potential sweethearts.”